Most people are born in a specific place and live there their entire lives. For them, location is never a question—whether out of convenience, obligation, or simply a lack of desire to move. The vast majority are born, live, and eventually pass away in the same place or not far from it.

Then, there is another group—those who end up living somewhere different from where they were born, either for work or personal choice. These individuals have a clear sense of where home is and what it represents, yet they find themselves living elsewhere.

And finally, there is a third group: those who have no idea where home is. These are the travelers, the wanderers.

Within this group, a crucial distinction exists. Some don't know where home is, but they feel at home everywhere they go—wandering freely, embracing life with an open heart.

Others believe home awaits them somewhere ahead, in a place to come. But no matter how far they search or how many places they go to, they never truly find it—they keep searching, moving from one place to another, only to feel let down time and time again.

Guess what? The search for home is not a physical journey—it is an inner voyage. Home is not a place; it is a reflection of an internal state.

What Does 'Home' Really Mean?

At its core, home is about belonging. It is the deep sense of connection—often to other people or to a place—that makes us feel settled and whole. For those who struggle to find home, the search is not about geography; it is about self-discovery.

For years, I felt like I never truly belonged anywhere. But as I found myself, something changed in the way I travel. I transformed from someone who never felt at home anywhere to someone who finds home (almost) everywhere.

So, when you move from place to place, ask yourself:

• Am I running away from something, hoping a new place will fix it?


• Is my dissatisfaction tied to specific aspects of where I am now, or is it something deeper—something within me?


If the answer points inward, then moving won’t solve the issue. You might continue relocating, only to find yourself facing the same emptiness. Instead, the real work is in discovering home within yourself first. Once you do, traveling becomes a matter of preference rather than a search for meaning.

And let’s be honest—traveling is awesome when done for the right reasons.

The Wisdom of Seneca

The great Roman philosopher Seneca, writing during the decadent era of the Roman Empire, called this struggle taedium vitae—the weariness of life. He recognized that travel could sometimes be an escape, a distraction from what was truly missing within.

“Are you amazed to find that even with such extensive travel, to so many varied locales, you have not managed to shake off gloom and heaviness from your mind? As if that were a new experience! You must change the mind, not the venue.”
—Seneca, Letters to Lucilius XXVIII

Once you find home within yourself, you no longer search for it outside. Moving becomes about lifestyle choices, not existential longing. There is no void to fill, no desperate need for meaning—because meaning is intrinsic to who you are.

Isn’t this the most beautiful gift of traveling? To feel at home anywhere, with anyone, in any circumstance? That, my friend, is ultimate freedom—the life of a master.

Tips for Those Searching for Home

• Keep traveling, but also keep searching for your true identity. Every experience should either bring you closer to who you are or show you what isn’t right for you.


• Try Lifebook Online—a great tool to help define your values and goals, especially if you’re not into spirituality.


• Engage in practices that connect you with yourself: meditation, Body Integration, art, or any passion that makes you feel alive.


• Be OK to get things absolutely random or absolutely wrong. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes or take wrong turns. Choosing the path that doesn't serve you makes it clear which direction you need to go.


• Don’t escape from your own emotions. Learn to love every aspect of yourself. Embrace your emotions, embrace pain—approach life like an experimental scientist.

Your home is within you. Once you find it, the whole world is yours to explore. Or, as Seneca puts it:

“I am not born for any one corner of the universe; this whole world is my country.”
—Seneca, Letters to Lucilius XXVIII