Have you ever told someone you really want to do something, but you're just too busy to find the time?


I hear this all the time.

My answer is simple: if you don’t have time for something, it means it’s not a priority. More often than not, we’re making excuses for ourselves.

We all lead "busy" lives—but what does “busy” actually mean?
 Being busy is like a constant hum of activity and obligation, it doesn’t necessarily mean we’re doing what truly matters to us.

The way we use our time is guided by a personal value system that shapes our priorities. Apart from essential actions—breathing, eating, drinking, sleeping—nothing is inherently a priority. Everything else is relative to what we value.

For some, work is the main focus. For others, it’s family responsibilities, raising children, or nurturing a relationship.

Between these core commitments, we often have personal goals—things we wish to do for ourselves in our spare time. And often, these get pushed aside.

A Personal Example

I juggle different things. But in my value system, it's important to take time for myself—time to do what makes me feel alive and fulfilled.

And yet, some of those goals get postponed. Repeatedly.

The excuse I give myself? I'm busy. But that’s not the truth.

For weeks, I put off a course I intended to take. Then a new course, one I was overly excited about, became available—and guess what?

I found time for it. Without even trying.

Another Example

A friend of mine, who’s balancing family responsibilities while building her own business, often says she has no time to exercise—and it genuinely frustrates her.

Here’s the twist: she meditates for one hour every day. Sometimes more.

Meditation has become a sacred ritual for her. It centers her and fuels her personal growth. But before it became a habit, if you'd asked her whether she had an hour a day to meditate, she would’ve said, Absolutely not.

So, what changed?

She started meditating, because she needed it. Because it became more important than other things. She couldn’t afford not to do it.

So it was never about time—it was always about values and priorities.

The Takeaway

Your true priorities are reflected in how you spend your time.

If you say you can’t find time for something, chances are it’s just not high enough on your priority list—and that’s okay.

You can either:

• Keep finding excuses for yourself, or

• Acknowledge that you're consciously or unconsciously deciding it's something you're willing to sacrifice compared to other things in your life.

And by doing so, you make peace with yourself.


You’ll also know that you have the power to shift your priorities whenever it feels right for you.