You feel lost. Your mind races through hundreds of possibilities, each one pulling you in a different direction. You chose a life of freedom, and you have all the freedom in the world. Ironically, this abundance of choices is precisely what’s stressing you out.

Most people wouldn’t see this as a problem. They would say you’re lucky—and you are. But how do you navigate endless possibilities without losing yourself in the process?

Get to Know Who You Are

If you don’t know which direction to take, start by understanding yourself. You need to know who you are before setting a direction; otherwise, you’re navigating blindly.

Some people intuitively follow their true path from the start. That’s great—it’s one end of the spectrum. My journey was different. I took many wrong turns, and nonetheless, that’s what led me back to myself.

Up until my thirty-sixth year, and still today, I hit many walls. And that was the best thing that could have happened to me. The pain of being out of alignment with myself was so strong that it eventually propelled me toward the right direction.

So eventually, we can all come home—it doesn't matter which road we have taken.

Carl Jung’s famous quote resonates completely: “Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research.”

The best thing I did was, at some point, give up on myself and follow what society and my inner critic told me to do—because in doing so, I learned exactly what I didn’t want. It may not have been the most efficient route, but by trying different paths, I gained a clear sense of who I am.

How else do we truly get to know ourselves?

We often judge ourselves based on time, yet most of our time is wasted because we are barely present. Time itself has no value—it doesn’t even exist. The only thing that truly matters is coming home to yourself.

Moving Forward in Making Choices

• Clarify Your Whys
  

  Understand your whys. Why do you want to do something specific? Is there a reason behind it? How structured is your decision-making framework for your life? Do you have one? More importantly, do you have a vision of where you are going? Do you have a dream?

  If you don’t yet have a life vision or a dream, consider exploring Lifebook Online—it was a real game changer for me.

• Take Action and Stay Open to Change

  Follow your vision or dream, but don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis. Start walking. Pick a path that resonates with you and move forward without overthinking it.

  Walk with an open heart and be flexible enough to gather feedback and adjust the direction, if needs be. It’s okay—actually, it’s vital. It’s the process itself.

• There Are No Mistakes—Only Feedback

  There is no such thing as the wrong choice. Every experience serves as a feedback mechanism, helping you refine your journey. There are no true mistakes, only opportunities to learn and course-correct.

  As you move forward, you’ll recognize the right path when you find it. You know that feeling—the spark, the sense of aliveness, the deep inner knowing: This is me! I was born for this. Your inner child lights up with joy when you’re on the right path.

• Balance One-Pointedness with Openness

  Life is a dance between intending and allowing. Set clear goals but leave space for the unknown. Surprises will come your way—things you wouldn’t have considered if you were too rigid in your planning. Pick up the breadcrumbs along the way; they are your signs. Look out for synchronicities. Stay open.

• Choose Joy in the Journey

  Pick a path that excites you—not for the end goal but for the journey itself. Don’t choose something simply because it’s easy, nor because it’s hard. Choose something meaningful that brings joy to the present moment.

  Follow your heart. Pursue what excites you most, without guilt. Don’t make choices based on convenience or fear. The more fiercely you chase your dreams, the more fully you will live as you.

Final Thoughts

We get to know ourselves by living, experiencing, and taking on new challenges.

Every road you take will eventually lead you back to yourself. So, take the next step with a light heart—the pressure is off.