How can we assume the best in others? More crucially, how can we always assume the best in others?

Life presents us with challenges. We witness betrayal firsthand. People lie, thinking we don’t notice. Some live in survival mode, weaving schemes—not to thrive, but merely to exist. Their sense of self is so fragile that deception, manipulation, and dishonesty become second nature. To them, these behaviors are normal.

They believe everything is justified, yet they judge others by entirely different standards when the same actions affect them. They are convinced this is normal, unaware that their patterns are visible to those who pay attention. And, above all, they cannot admit this to themselves—because acknowledging it would mean questioning the very foundation they have painstakingly built.

So, how do we assume the best in others, even when it’s clear they don’t have our best interests at heart?

• Observe, without reacting. Be aware. Take note.

• Don’t take it personally. Their behavior is not about you—it reflects who they are.

• Acknowledge reality. Ignorance and harmful behaviors exist, but that doesn’t mean everyone operates with ill intent. Accept things as they are, acceptance doesn’t mean approval—it means clarity.

• Recognize diverse perspectives. Not everyone sees life as you do.

• Give yourself time to process. Sit with what you notice inside of you.

• Decide what you want. Choose how you wish to engage with the world.

• Set clear boundaries. Protect your energy and well-being.

• Cultivate compassion. Kindness doesn’t mean tolerating harm; it means understanding without attachment.

• Release responsibility for others’ growth. If they awaken to their inner light, it’s their journey—not yours.

• Lead with integrity. Treat people like you’d like to be treated, despite the actions in the now. Address your speech with assertiveness and kindness.

• Walk away when necessary. Choosing peace is not weakness; it’s wisdom.

Nature exists in a spectrum of polarities. What we label as "evil" is simply the opposite end of the best human instincts—kindness, integrity, and awareness. Most harmful actions stem from ignorance and unconsciousness rather than intentional malice.

Assuming the best in others doesn’t mean ignoring reality. It means recognizing their struggles, standing firm in your own truth, and responding with wisdom.